“I can’t accept that this happened to you. Why did this happen? You eat healthy all the time…organic foods even. You exercise all the time”. When faced with life’s challenges, some people can’t help but question why things happen to them or question what someone else did to cause misfortune in that person’s life. I ask,”What difference does it make?”

Those comments/questions were actually posed by someone very close to me regarding my breast cancer diagnosis. I can’t make this stuff up. There are several different directions that I could take this post because I’ve been mulling over those comments for weeks now. My initial reaction was the title of this post and it continues to be my response. It’s what I hear in those words that gets under my skin. What my sensitive ears hear arejudgment and blame.

I’ve already written a post on managing judgmental people. You…